I’ve been a bit neglectful of my readers of late… and I really do apologise. You see I’ve been busy moving and planning a trip to South East Asia (for 6 months) in between finalising a website I have just done and mentoring a friend who has dived head first in a MLM company (but more of than in another post). So this has left me with scant time to blog. (“Yes… I know what you mean I can hear you say”)
Now before you all start groaning and mumbling ”lucky bugger” under your breath let me say this…
There is no such thing as luck. Just desire, a clear goal, and then doing what needs to be done until you get your goal, mixed in with a big dollop of self motivation.
Of course we all have tasks we dislike, and this brings me to an revelation which prohibits us from getting where we want to go – self motivation. Some revelation eh? Doh.
Sure.. we have all had grand ideas, and quite frankly most times we even know how to execute them. The problem is we loose self motivation, and this ingredient has a habit of completely ruining our recipe for success.
I’ve come to know this about self motivation (usually through having experienced a lack of it), and it has been the reason why so many times I have had great ideas which have never seen the light of day, and the reason I have tried a gazillion diets and never loose the weight I want to.
If you’re like me and there is any element of the goal which involves either a task you dislike, a struggle with “how”, or if physical pain is caused along the way (and let me include hip pocket pain as well), then we are very likely NOT to be self motivated. Right?
What you started out being really excited about soon becomes something you would rather not even think about because:
1. You have spent a truck load of money you really didn’t have in the first place to spend on our idea (usually at the detriment of others around us like the wife, the husband or the kids)
2. In the beginning you have told so many friends and family how fabulous your idea is and how you are going to set the world on fire, you don’t want to remind them what you said so you keep it all “hush hush” and don’t mention it, in the hope it will go away, or
3. You create another “focus”, another idea which inspires you again.
And so goes the pattern for a lot of us.
Great Ideas. Full of inspiration. Task becomes “painful”. Lack of motivation. Failure.
It’s a bloody merry-go-round which keeps us failing.
However… when there is what I call “feel goods” along the way, self motivation comes naturally.
In the context of an online business “feel goods” are things like increased purchases, new blog readers, better rankings, more subscribers, etc, a new lead…
When you are starting out “feel goods” are few and far between, and very quickly (unless you can bring out your own self motivation) you will become despondent, and then it’s only a matter of time before your goals are just a distant memory which you would rather forget because to remember them evokes your own sense of being a failure.
Failure. I’ve failed.
Nothing evokes dread more than these words (well maybe “Do you feel lucky punk” is in there too
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We all like to win.. be The Best, Number One, Top of the Class. Numero Uno.
In essence SUCCESSFUL.
Keep reading because I’m going to give you some ideas on how to keep yourself self motivated and keep you on track and moving forward.
1. First get this… if you ain’t moving forward you are either going backwards, or standing still.
Read it again. And again. If necessary write it down and put it where you do your most work.
But whatever you do get it! If you aren’t moving forward you are either moving backwards or standing still.
2. Affirm this “I choose to move forward and be a successfull”
3. Get a white board and use it! If you don’t have one get one.
Have your white board in a place where you can always refer to it (this really is your “silent motivator”).
4. Brainstorm with yourself ideas about how to move forward and write them up. Then prioritise the action steps to get to where you need to go.
5. When you have brainstormed, write down (again on your whiteboard) one thing which will stop you if you were to actually do what you brainstormed about.
(Lets just stop here for a second so I can give you the picture).
Ok.. Let’s use this as an example…
List building (everyone wants more TARGETED people on their list).
So there you are in front of your whiteboard and you are brainstorming how to build your list of TARGETED prospects. You write up on the board start a blog, post in forums, write articles with linkbacks to your site, advertise in print media, find a JV, plan a product launch…
Then you look over your list and find the one that appeals to you most (the one you are MOST LIKELY to do).
Next, think about what thing would stop you continuing to do it? Money? Time? Pain?
Whetever it is identify the one thing that will bring you undone if you were to go ahead and do what you plan.
So you got it? Identify your weakness before you start and plan to NOT fail.
6. Now you have identified what will bring you unstuck, plan to overcome it. Hate writing? Find a freelancer. No time to blog? Find a freelancer. Don’t know how to do something? Decide if you really NEED to know and learn it or, find a freelancer who can do it for you.
“But..” I hear you say! “It takes money to hire a freelancer!”
Yes.. and I’ll say this.. If you already know that there is a task that you hate to do, (or can’t do, wont do, no time to do) and this task is integral to getting to where you need to go, then you absolutely WILL FAIL if you do not address this BEFORE you start.
So now that you know what will bring you unstuck you need to be prepared to open the wallet, barter your services with someone else who CAN do what you can’t (aka freelancer), or forget your idea because you will fail. No question.
What motivates me to be up at 6.30am and write this blog?
Because I want to and I can, and it is a step in getting to where I need to go, and doing it teaches me so much about my own shortcomings.
Why didn’t I just get a freelancer to write my blog posts while I was busy? Next time I will.
Why? Because during the time I was busy doing other things I neglected my readers and I lost half of my readers. HALF!
IDENTIFY YOUR WEAKNESS and address it before it wins and stamps you a failure.
Time was my weakness. And time CAN be brought.
I’m going to continue this post in the next post because I have a few more ideas up my sleeve to help which will keep you on track.
Not the least is posting a comment and including a question in a blog post.
So .. got a question?
Just post it here and I can motivate you with a dialogue between us.
I’m the silent avatar… and I have spoken.
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